Do Couples Go Engagement Ring Shopping Together
An engagement ring is one of the most important pieces of jewellery you'll ever own - not just because of expense but for sentimental value too. So, it's hugely important that the right ring is chosen. This has led to many couples shopping for their rings together. With such an important decision, it only makes sense that the person wearing the ring should be involved. But choosing your own ring very much goes against tradition.
While some wedding rules are meant to be broken, it seems the world is divided on whether to include your partner or not when shopping for engagement rings. Here, we'll explore the advantages and disadvantages of choosing your engagement ring together and how to make the ring selection process special if that's the route you decide.
Pros and Cons of Engagement Ring Shopping Together
When it comes to shopping for an engagement ring together as a couple, there are pros and cons of doing so. Let’s understand them in detail.
Pros of Shopping an Engagement Ring Together
- Significant Investment: An engagement ring is a big investment, whether you're spending £100 or £10,000. You want to ensure you get it just right, and shopping together can help achieve that.
- Trying on Rings: If you've never been engaged before, chances are you've never tried on an engagement ring. And, while you might have other rings in styles that you like, an engagement ring is something you'll need to love for the rest of your life. Ideally, you wouldn't buy a house or a car before seeing it and making sure it's the perfect fit first, so why would an engagement ring be any different?
- Exploring Styles: Trying on various types of engagement rings will allow you to get an idea of the styles you like, from trilogy and solitaire to halo and vintage, while also finding designs that fit your budget. You'll also be able to get your finger measured there and then, so there's no awkward mistake of the ring not fitting. You may even find that you'd prefer a gemstone engagement ring rather than a diamond.
- Bonding Experience: Choosing a ring together is a fun experience that can bring you and your partner closer and make you feel enthused and excited about the future.
- Custom Design Opportunities: If you're planning on creating a custom ring, this is an opportunity to make big decisions together. By designing your own ring, you'll need to figure out what works and what doesn't, from the budget to the style, share thoughts and opinions, collaborate and compromise, which makes for good marriage practice too.
Cons of Shopping for an Engagement Ring Together
- Lack of Surprise: The obvious disadvantage of choosing an engagement ring together is the lack of surprise. However, there will still be plenty of mystery elements surrounding the proposal itself that can be kept secret. For example, choosing the ring doesn't mean the proposal will be happening the next day. The timing of the proposal and where and how it happens can all still be a joyous surprise. The only difference is that you already know you'll love the ring chosen.
- Commitment Test: Some believe that having your partner choose the engagement ring without your input demonstrates their understanding of you. Knowing your ring size and preferences is a sign of their effort and commitment, making shopping together feel less romantic.
- Potential Conflicts: Shopping for an engagement together could also cause some conflict. If your partner has their eyes on their dream ring, but it's out of budget, it may feel uncomfortable saying no. But, if you agree to go over budget, compromises will need to be made elsewhere in your life that could lead to further conflict later on. Finances are one of the biggest causes of arguments amongst couples, in general. But when shopping for a ring, the last thing you want is for it to end in a quarrel. This is where being able to communicate together clearly and confidently is key.
Tips for Couples While Buying the Engagement Ring Together
1. Communication is Key
If you’ve decided to shop for an engagement ring together, it’s essential to ensure that everything goes smoothly and that each person’s expectations are heard, understood, and taken on board. Effective communication is crucial in this process. Here are some tips on compromise and communication when choosing a ring:
Open Financial Discussion: Have a frank discussion about your finances as a couple. While money can be an uncomfortable topic to discuss at times, it's important to understand each other's expectations and the consequences of going over budget on the ring.
Cost Sharing: Discuss the idea of splitting costs. In many modern engagements, the bride-to-be is usually happy to contribute to the cost of the ring if it means they get the ring they've always dreamed of.
Respect Each Other’s Opinions: Be respectful of each other's thoughts and opinions when trying on rings. If you prefer a simple solitaire, but your partner prefers a vintage look, try to meet in the middle with a stunning halo design. While your partner will wear the ring every day, your opinions are still valid, and your partner will want to ensure you love the ring just as much.
2. Modern Engagement Trends
In our modern society, 63% of couples choose to shop for an engagement ring together. Many even propose without a ring, with the plan to shop for one later or custom make a ring together. While tradition has always left the groom responsible for choosing the ring, newer generations are throwing those rules out and experiencing the fun of trying on and choosing their own ring.
Logically, choosing your ring makes sense since you'll get to choose exactly what you want and won't need to worry about the hassle of sizing. But, some fear the romantic aspect of tradition is being lost.
While it may not be the traditional way of proposing, we believe that choosing or designing a ring together still has a very romantic and meaningful story behind it. And there are still plenty of ways to make the occasion special.
Whatever you Choose to do, Make it Special
To make shopping for a ring together more romantic, don't just add it to your regular to-do list. Instead, make a day out of it and turn it into a special occasion.
Pick a date in your diary when you're both free and start contacting the jewellery stores you plan to visit. Some stores may even offer private appointments with champagne arrivals to make the experience even more memorable.
Since your partner will be spending the day trying on rings, they'll no doubt want their nails to look the part, so book them in for a surprise manicure, either in the morning or the day before. You can also take them out for a relaxing brunch beforehand or a romantic dinner afterwards.
Whether you decide to shop together for an engagement ring or want to follow tradition and take the responsibility on yourself (the choice is entirely down to you and your partner), take some time to read through our guide to finding the perfect engagement ring to feel fully prepared.
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